How to Deal with Internal Resistance
Today I want to touch upon internal resistance. It is one of the most important reasons why we fail to follow through on things. It doesn’t matter how urgent or important it is, you can always find a way to procrastinate if there is a part in you that carry a resistance. We need to access what lies behind and find out the real reason. Only then can we solve many of our problems and make life easier.
Next time when you find yourself delaying a task and not feeling inspired to do it, check in with yourself on a deeper level and ask the question what is stopping you? There are usually many layers that shows up so you have to go through them one by one. This will help you start figure out what the resistance is all about and what creates it. You might need help to become clear before you get down to the deepest layers. This is one of the many things I help my clients to resolve in my Stress to Strength program.
Find Your Resistance
To be able to go deep inside we have to listen carefully to what we think and access our subconscious mind. We have between 60 to 80,000 thoughts every day which is overwhelming in itself. Most of those thoughts are usually just flashing by while others you might dwell on. Some of the thoughts you might not even be conscious about and they are lurking in the subconscious. Here is where you most likely find the deeper resistance.
So if you find yourself not taking action on what you’re supposed to do, I recommend you to sit down for a minute close your eyes and quiet your mind. There is an exercise I can teach so you can try it out on your own. You might be able to get a breakthrough however most of the time it is helpful to have a coach guide you. Don’t hesitate to contact me for a coaching session when you need it.
Make yourself comfortable on a chair and close your eyes. Start to notice your breathing and take six deep breaths to make sure you calm your nervous system. I want you to think about the issue you are resisting to deal with. Just keep that thought in your mind and then ask yourself what is it in this issue I resist? You brain might come up with a lot of different answers or you might go blank, it doesn’t matter. Just stay there and keep asking questions like what is the procrastination about? What do I gain by avoiding it or does it cause me more problems when I avoid it? What would I gain if I let the resistance go?
The first couple of answers that come up are usually not deep enough to solve the issue. You might come up with things like “I really don’t like it, it feels like a waste of my time.” Keep digging deeper and ask more questions to get to the bottom.
Write It Down
Write your answers down once you get into deeper layers and continue with follow-up questions on each answer. You might be surprised and even find answers right away that you have been struggling with for a long time. The solution is most of the time within us, we just need to still our mind and ask the right questions.
If the answer is “I don’t have the time” you should ask yourself if it is a matter of lack of willingness to prioritize. If something is important enough you will make the time. With my clients I also explore through a guided meditation where in the body they feel the resistence. This is an important second part to the exercise.
Once you find an answer you can release the resistance once and for all. And when you do release it you will free up a lot of energy. You will also realize how much this resistance has cost you to hold onto. Cut it loose and use that energy for things that truly inspires you.
Contact me if you want help in getting a real break through.